Psychology-Coaching: Time management

Psychology-Coaching: Time management

Psychology-Coaching: Time management

Recalling Steven Covey's very successful book, titled The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, he discusses the 4 basic needs that human beings have, to live, to love, to learn, or to leave a legacy, but what happens when we don't put first the first?


In general, we have an emotional or existential imbalance, we do not feel comfortable, we lack time, we do not get to everything, we feel stressed, nervous, incompetent ...

We can put first things first, we have to connect with the vision, with the mission, with our objective, we have to identify our roles, and know if we are being aware that each role needs a weekly or daily organization.

There is a very basic exercise which is the following: write down 3 things that are the first thing in your life, what time do you dedicate to them and what emotions do you feel, and if there is one to which you would like to spend more or less time, you can put it on your list priorities, and this will also change your emotions.

If we make a small diagram regarding the roles that each person has, we could say that we have mental, spiritual, physical and social roles, within each role we have some empty spaces, some needs to which we can dedicate more or less time and We also have a degree of satisfaction for each role. If we make a small outline and put a number from 0 to 10 on each role, we will see how satisfied we feel.

How can we put first things first: after identifying the roles, we make a needs map for each role, for example: with my partner; I want to go on a trip, I want to play sports, I want to be intimate with my children; I want to have more time to play, to read, with my work; I have to further develop my communication skills with clients, make them more present in my life, not have them forgotten ... each one has their different needs for each role.

We will also do the weekly organization with a very clear definition of what is urgent and what is non-urgent, prioritizing, delegating and planning.

Urgent are pressing problems, projects whose dates expire, emergencies.

Not urgent can be, prevent build relationships, recognize new opportunities, planning, leisure. Within the urgent, we distinguish between urgent important and urgent not important, as we have said before pressing problems, projects whose dates expire are urgent and important things. An urgent thing that is not important can be meetings, some emails that you have to send, not urgent and important is to prevent, organize, plan. Not urgent and not important can be a few useless calls and emails, a waste of time in trivialities, a useless hustle and bustle.

How can we put first things first; We are going to try to be a little more honest with ourselves, and with integrity, and dedicate 5 minutes every morning to connect with our inner compass, what we really want to do on that day. We will review our daily goals, fulfill the actions to achieve our goals. If I have decided to go to the gym, walk or run every day, if it is a priority for health, for well-being, whatever, this action will be a daily priority and at the end of the week, in writing, we will do an evaluation and we will celebrate our successes.

Carmen Martinez - Psicóloga y Coaching

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