Couple Therapy: Loneliness and Resilience
Loneliness and Resilience
The importance of knowing how to be alone and increase our resilience
In general, people with healthy self-esteem feel happy being alone and also being with people, on the other hand, there are other people who prefer to be alone because they see many things in other people that they do not like, that they dislike, that irritate them, and really the first step to have healthy relationships is to feel happy with yourself and then have satisfactory relationships with other people.
Actions come before motivation, even if it seems difficult to understand
For many lonely people who complain about it and want to have relationships, friendships, a partner, etc., it would be good to start by choosing some actions to take, such as developing a talent or ability that they have, how can it be, practice a sport, dance , some type of artistic activity, starting with a hobby that gives you satisfaction, be it cooking, photography, gardening, it is also usually very positive to start a personal development activity such as meditation, activities such as yoga and so on. In addition, activities to help others are also very positive, in non-governmental organizations, for example.
Some people who live alone complain about their loneliness, they don't take care of their self-esteem, they don't take care of their eating habits, exercising, taking care of their house, having it decorated in a nice and clean way, so these people wait for someone else to arrive. person to help him, to please him, when he has not even been able to help himself, for that reason the 1st person to be helped is himself, learn to be alone, learn to take care of himself, to improve ... to love himself more .
In general, people with healthy self-esteem feel happy being alone and do not need the approval of others.
Resilience development shows how people can find constructive ways to deal with difficult times. Some helpful suggestions on these topics include:
managing negative emotions in difficult times
use an asset-liability model to understand resilient behavior
distinguish between what is inside and outside of your control
identify and change attitudes that undermine resilience development
develop self confidence
increase your level of tolerance for frustration
maintain a resilient perspective.