Couple Therapy: How to recover your relationship The Change in the Couple is possible

Couple Therapy: How to recover your relationship The Change in the Couple is possible

Couple Therapy: How to recover your relationship The Change in the Couple is possible

A good disposition is everything.

Shakespeare (Hamlet, Act 5, Scene 2)

Six different stages of "activation for change" have been identified according to Prochaska, this model suggests that people or groups pass through six stages when they change behaviour: pre-contemplation, contemplation, preparation, action, maintenance, and termination. (Prochaska, 1995).


In the first stage, people "do not intend to change or go into action soon, which is usually measured in terms of" the next 6 months "however, it may actually" do not know "that there is a problem. In other cases, it is possible that they realize that there is, but they usually do not know the relationship between it and that which has contributed to create it or maintain it.


The process of change continues with a second stadium, contemplation. According

Prochaska people at this stage "intend to change within

of the next 6 months ». In traditional treatment approaches, it is often called these people the clients of the "yes, but" -creasing them who lovely seek the

Help and the advice of a therapist but reject them when it is offered.

All in all, people at the contemplative stadium recognize that a necessary

change, but they are not sure if it is worth it in terms of time, effort and

Energy. In addition, they are concerned about the losses that any change can behave.


In the third stadium, people prepare to "carry out some action in an

immediate future, which is normally measured in terms of the "following month" »

(Prochaska, 1999). The main thing in this stadium is to focus on identifying the criteria and

The strategies that can take them to success. People at this stadium also usually

Start experiencing with the change they want to make - to determine their reach,

see what feeling causes them and what their effects are.


After preparation, the action comes. According to Prochaska, "action is the

Stadium in which people make specific modifications, clear, in the style of

The life that they have taken during the previous six months. Due to the

tendency to equate the stadium of action with therapeutic change, many models

traditional identifies this stadium erroneously as one in which the

TREATMENT (Miller, 1986, Prochaska et al., 1992). However, research

demonstrates that, despite the historical bias in favour of the action, the probability that one

person is at this stadium at the beginning of treatment is comparatively

less. This lack of coincidence largely explains the persistence of the concept of

Resistance in the discourse on mental health.


In this stadium, the change continues and puts on the accent on what is necessary

Do to maintain or consolidate what you lived. In contrast to the people who are

They find in the stadium of action, those that are in the maintenance "tend less

To fall and trust more and more in their ability to continue with the changes.

 This is due to what they have learned from the difficulties and temptations that have been found throughout the previous stages.


According to Prochaska, at the termination stadium "The temptation to return to the

problematic behaviour is zero, and there is one hundred per cent trusted (perception of

Self-efficacy) In which the same situation will not be repeated. Defined thus, this stadium is more ideal than a realistic or achievable change stadium.

Usually, most people stay in the maintenance phase, having presented the possible threats and reviewing what they need to do to keep the

change. For these reasons, when contact between client and therapist comes to an end, the

The best option is to wish the best to customers and leave the door open to a possible

Return in case other challenges, setbacks or new concerns appear.

Carmen Martinez - Psicóloga y Coaching

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